Understanding Shyness: How being shy affects my life.
One a scale of 1 – 10; How shy are you? 1 being painfully, unable to speak to people shy and 10 being not shy at all. I would put myself as a 3.5 (4 on a good day) To be honest my goal in this isn’t to be a 10 instead it is more about getting to be a 7 when my shyness no longer has any negative effect on my life.
There are a lot of situations and social settings that I avoid. Meeting new people is very hard, I feel uncomfortable asking them a lot of personal questions, and just as uncomfortable sharing my stories. It takes me longer than most people to warm to someone and be at a point where I feel comfortable sharing personal information.
A lot of non-shy people don’t understand that shyness can be mistaken for being a snob, arrogant, being rude or just plain unfriendly. I have had this happen several times and all it does is make the shyness worse. It’s hard to explain being shy to someone who has never experienced these feelings.
I enjoy my own company so have no desire to be a social butterfly, it would just be nice to not have a sinking feeling when you need to meet someone new and have a conversation with them.
Posted: June 14th, 2007 under My Shyness.
Comments
Comment from Maggie
Time June 15, 2007 at 12:23 am
I’m probably a 5, though it really depends on the situation.
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Comment from AVCr8teur
Time June 19, 2007 at 2:21 pm
It’s weird, sometimes I’m a 2 and other times I’m a 10. I’m not sure what makes me one or the other in front of strangers. Perhaps it’s also how the other person acts, looks, or speaks? Are we more 2′s in front of beautiful/good looking people whereas in front of “ordinary” looking people we can be more 8′s and 10′s? I haven’t quite figured this out myself.
Comment from Titus
Time May 27, 2009 at 12:45 am
Am a very shy guy who feels shy each and every day.So i spend most of my time alone maybe locked in bedroom.I sometimes feel like no one loves.
Comment from keeyit
Time June 14, 2007 at 8:34 pm
I am shy too.. I rate myself as 2.0..