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Symptoms of Shyness

Looking through the list below you may see symptoms that you have experienced. Sometimes people are aware that they are feeling uncomfortable, but are unable to define it more than that. It may help to know which symptoms you experience to help you know what area to target as you work to overcome shyness. Worry is something that use to trouble me a lot; working to reduce worry has had a positive impact on my shyness – less worry has led to less shyness. Another example is a friend who use to talk about her heart beating so loud she could hear it, this in turn made her shyness worse as she worried that others could also hear it. So as part of her plan to overcome shyness she learnt breathing techniques which helped keeping her heart from racing, therefore, removing the worry that others could hear it and ultimately reducing her shyness. So while this list can appear daunting, that isn’t the aim.  The aim is to recognize which symptoms you experience, then taking this knowledge to help you overcome shyness.

Outward symptoms. 

These are visible to others and often very hard to hide.  They can be broken into two groups, behavioural and physiological. 

Behavioural symptoms
- Not speaking or saying very little.
- Stuttering.

- Very little or no eye contact.

- Standing apart from others.

- Speaking in a low voice.

Physiological symptoms
- Blushing.

- Muscle tension.

- Sweating/ sweaty hands.

- Increase in heart rate
- Feeling sick, upset stomach or butterflies.
- Shaking.

- Dry mouth.

Inward symptoms.  

These are the symptoms that happen on the inside and they are easier to hide than outward symptoms.  

- Self consciousness.
- Negative thoughts (why did I do that for, I am useless etc.)

- Fear of being judged by others.

- Fear of being rejected or forgotten .

- Excessive worry.

- Feeling embarrassed.

- Anxiety.

- Low self-esteem.

- Sadness/depression.


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Time July 12, 2007 at 3:33 am

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Comment from x3r0bug
Time July 22, 2007 at 11:07 am

Very informative!

The unfortunate thing about the whole situation is that many of the things they are afraid of (such as fear of being rejected or forgotten) has a better chance of happening when someone is shy.

I used to read info such as this and know it in my head, but then think to myself: it’s a lose, lose situation because I’m naturally shy, and that is causing my fears to come true.

It can be a long, painful process but one can overcome shyness…. once again, great tips. I wish I would have discovered this website when I was in a big bind with shyness..

Comment from tee tee
Time April 8, 2008 at 3:49 pm

yes, i am naturally shy too. I try to overcome it but, it’s just too hard. i hate it because it interferes with my life.

Comment from Matt Golfcovers
Time October 5, 2008 at 12:57 pm

I’ve heard some goody things about this blog. The content has really been useful a great balance of text and pictures.

Comment from Joseph
Time January 27, 2009 at 12:38 pm

I’m trying the best I can but it just isn’t that easy for me. There are some days when I am feel confident and talk to people and other days when I don’t say a word to anyone expect for a few people only if i know them well. It’s hard for me to break this habit of being shy and feeling insecure. People think i’m wierd and strange. Right now I am at school writing this because I really want some answers on how to get out of this mess. It’s driving me crazy.

Comment from Steven
Time April 14, 2009 at 11:28 am

I experience many of these symptoms, and shyness holds me back. Although I have not been able to overcome it myself, I think it would help to keep telling yourself you are not shy. That is what my psychology teacher said. Of course, I am too afraid to try it.

Comment from Beth
Time October 10, 2009 at 5:56 am

I am shy and I have exactly the same problem than this example.

And this behaviour affect my social life

Can you help me Please?

Comment from jo mi
Time January 4, 2010 at 6:43 pm

i used to be a happened when i went to a diffrent school then my friends ive always been shy but like little kid shy like i’ll warm up 2 u kind of im in middle skool i waz mostly shy cause low selfesteem n low confidence but this year ive gotten so much better its almost gone but it takes time.its so possible to out grow ur shyness, have faith push urself nd dont care wat ppl think cuz no one perfect nd shy is wat sum ppl think is cute,and some shyness comes from fear .dont let it rule over u is 2 fun for shyness just open up n ppl will think ur kool n follow.but b urself cuz ppl can tell win ur not.

Comment from latrice
Time January 17, 2010 at 9:58 pm

I didnt realize all my symptoms were from being shy.I hate being shy and I hav anxiety it come what you fear is what you are doin yourself? I feel bad that preety much everyone thinks I am strange r weird, I really need help with it.

Comment from dennis
Time July 2, 2011 at 11:55 pm

deep down ive always been shy iam 49 now and i have tried everything i used to drink alcohol which i found helped alot with my inhibitions but i became dpendant on it and needed it all the time ,i now dont drink at all but the shy and inadequate feelings are still there

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