Comments on: Is shyness a choice?

By: Adorha

Adorha — Sat, 07 Jul 2007 09:05:25 +0000

Well I understand what it is like to develop a shyness towards people as a direct result of being bullied at school. I’m now in my mid 20′s and it’s still something I am working on. It’s not easy, but it a choice I make each day, to overcome it.

I’m glad I found your blog. I have added the rss feed.

By: Dee

Dee — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 23:36:34 +0000

Alex, I really enjoyed your blog because I have been reaccessing my beliefs with regards to my shyness and your blog asked a question that I had not thought of.

This post was my first reaction.

Some people certainly seem to be born that way while others develop shyness as they grow. But you are right when the natural childhood shyness ends and we are standing as adults we do need to take responsibility for our actions.

I am still trying to understand where being an introvet ends and my being shy begins.

To Dana, I completely agree. Talking absolutes never really works because there is so many “depends” and “combinations”.

To Hamon, I agree with your comment and thanks for reading my blog

By: Hamon

Hamon — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 22:08:36 +0000

I agree that some are born shy and some develop shyness. Those that develop shyness as a safety device must then be able to reverse this.

Being an introvert is just who you are. That is not a choice.

Nice blog btw.

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 19:14:12 +0000

Most kids are shy by nature. Can you blame them? They are just discovering the world.

But now that people are grown up and completely aware of themselves, one must take some sort of responsibility for one’s actions. Right?

When I wrote my “Shyness is a Choice” post I was aiming at the self aware individual who realizes that they are acting shy. If you realize that you are acting shy, you should be able to act “unshy”?

I guess by calling it a choice that implies that it’s easy, but I did not mean that either.

P.S. Thanks for stopping by my blog!
P.S.S. Shy does not equal Introverted

By: Dana

Dana — Fri, 06 Jul 2007 16:10:30 +0000

Like anything, it may be a combination. But one of my children was born naturally shy. She has been that way since birth, and requires extra comfort and encouragement to interact with others.

Not everyone is outgoing and bubbly.