Don’t Be Shy

Don’t change your expectations
Don’t let their shyness be an excuse.  No one wants to feel like they are being treated differently, and in most cases this will only make their shyness increase.  However it is important to remain empathic to their situation and understand that it is hard for them.

Avoid negative labels. 
 There is nothing worse than being introduced like “this is Dee, she’s shy”.  It makes you feel so small and you just want to get out of there as fast as you can.  If you are worried that their shyness is mistaken for arrogance or unfriendly, then a quiet word explaining that your friend takes time to warm to new people can be helpful.  However, I would suggest you ask your friend if this is ok first.

Give them time, but include them in group conversations.
If you are at a party or group situation include your shy friend in the conversation.  When you are talking to others ask your friend simple yes/no questions, or ask what they think.   By offering them opportunity to contribute to the conversation your friend may start to feel more comfortable and open up.  Speaking from personal experience I just take a little a bit more time than my outgoing friends to feel comfortable to contribute.  Giving me the time I need always helps is very much appreciated.

Role Play.
Do some role playing.  Role play different situations with different characters, for example; you play the part of the party guest, and get your friend to introduce themselves to you.  This works best if you both are very close friends, otherwise it can be a bit embarrassing.  And don’t worry if they say no, they may take you up on the offer later.   
 

Thanks to Claudia for emailing and asking for ideas to help her shy friend.