Don’t Be Shy

When you are dealing with, and working towards overcoming shyness it is important to watch your thoughts.  Think about an up-coming social event, ask yourself – have you already decided if you are going to enjoy yourself.  It’s true that we often decide if we are going to enjoy a  social situation before we experience it.   If you think you will have an awful time, then you will find and focus on  all those little things that make the evening suck.  And of course it is then no surprise that you will have a terrible time.

Don’t let your expectations ruin the event.

I have been guilty of this many times, and chances are you have too. Your expectations based on experience with past events that are similar in nature, coupled with what we think about the other people attending all help us decide whether we will have fun. Being aware that you judge an event before attending it is the first step because often we do this without realising.

Decide to have a good time.

One way is to keep an open mind. Look for the good and bad, see how you feel then make a decision. But even better is to decide that you will have a good time. Just like you decide you are going to have an awful time, decide that you will have a good time.

Don’t think about it, just do it.

Once you have decided to have a good time; that is enough. At the social event don’t over think it. Do something, join a conversation, introduce yourself to someone etc. Take action and take your mind off whether you are having a good time. You will surprise yourself later by realising that you did have a good time.

This really can work, decide you will have a good time and then do just that. Remember it is critical that you don’t over analysis it, just do it.