Don’t Be Shy

We must remember that people with seemly perfect lives have problems too.
It’s important to remember this, especially if you compare yourself with other people.  You can’t make a fair comparison between your life, which you know every single issue, to that of someone where you only know the image they portray.  
Heath ledger certainly seemed to [...]

Conversations don’t usually start with deep and meaningful questions, nor are they, in reality the exchange of witty banter we are amused by on some television shows.  But in fact, most conversations and so-called small talk are nothing special or interesting, it’s just people talking. 
Recently I read of a person who was planning to write [...]

Self esteem is the how you feel about yourself, are you satisfied with who you are?  Shyness and self esteem can often be linked and like overcoming shyness, building self esteem can take some time (obviously it’s well worth it)  but here are 5 ideas you can incoropate into your life starting right now.  Some [...]

I like New Year resolutions.  There is something about the first of the year, the ideal of a clean slate to start the year.  With a brand new year ahead what is it you will do to make sure it’s the best ever.    Setting New Year resolutions reminds me that I can take active steps [...]

Here is a tip that works to help you take action and prevent your shyness overtaking you.   Keep your phone near you.  If you have a home office set up, keep you phone in this area.  It is best to be able to reach your phone without having to get up.   This works because now [...]

Shyness can often leave you standing to the side wondering what to say or do.  Taking action may seem like a general (and useless) piece of advice but it isn’t as hard as it seems.  And it works!  Like most things as one step it is huge, but broken down into small steps, taking action [...]

Music is a wonderful way to energise you, cheer you up, or relax you.   This quick tip aims to show you how to find songs that you can use to help you deal with shyness and the negative feelings that are sometimes associated with overcoming it.
 
Find the song:
1. Find some songs you like, listen to them [...]

In the overcoming shyness series I discuss how extending your comfort zone is the key to overcoming shyness.   Comfort challenges is a perfect way to achieve this.   I stumbled across this idea in the book I just started reading;  The 4-Hour Workweek.   The book’s blub talks about how to escape 9-5, working less and living more so finding [...]

Shyness can cause the ‘I don’t know what to say’ problem.  Where you are in a situation where you want to talk with the other person but don’t know what to say.  Either you have a total blank and no clue about what to talk about or you think they will think you are stupid [...]

Here is a quick conversation tip.   If you are feeling shy when talking with someone and worried that you might be coming across as unfriendly this trick will help.  What you do is say -‘I like you’ with your eyes.    That’s it, say ‘I like you’ in your head while looking the other person in [...]