Don’t Be Shy

Rejection is just a part of life, it happens to all of us at some time. But that doesn’t make it easy to deal with. In fact, getting rejected can be devastating and take time to get over. Whether it is the first time or the 100th time you have been rejected there are a [...]

One problem you may encounter as a shy person is that others may perceive you as being unfriendly.  One simple way to negate this is to use the person’s name when greeting them and/or in the conversation.  This can help present a friendlier image without stepping too far out of your comfort zone.     This works [...]

You don’t have to attend every social event you are invited to – but how do you choose which to attend and which to pass?    During the year I often find there are times when I have no social events to attend, and then there are times when there seem to be too many.   During [...]

 There are several simple things you can do each day to help deal with and overcome shyness.  These things alone won’t help overcome shyness rather they make it easier to deal with shyness and that ultimately will help you work towards overcoming it.  One of these simple things you can do is get enough sleep.   [...]

Overcoming shyness is a process and does take time.  But as I stand and look back over the years there are a few things I wish I knew when I was 15 that would have made the process a little easier.  This is part two of the advice I would give myself.  You can read [...]

Have you ever heard advice like “oh just don’t worry and get out there” or “don’t be shy, just chat with people”?   This advice use to bother me and leave me wondering what was wrong with me.  Why couldn’t I just ‘get out there’?  Advice like this can be common, so what do you do [...]

As you strive to reduce shyness it is important to extend your comfort zone.  This means you will need to venture out and socialize with others.  But what if you have no social event to attend? Usually when people talk of social events they mean parties, networking events, dinner parties, going out to dinner, work [...]

Years ago I was with a small group attending the filming of a TV show.  During a break, the floor manager came over and said if we wanted we could go and say hi to whoever we wanted.   This was such a surprise and good fortune, yet I didn’t take it.  I felt like an [...]

I love this tip for overcoming shyness for two reasons:    1. It gives you conversation topics.     2. It is much easier to talk about things you love. In most work places and schools/collages people gather the morning after to talk about their favorite TV shows.    It is therefore a matter of finding people that like [...]

Even though you know you shouldn’t make social comparisons you probably still do.  But how fair is this on you, and your efforts to feel more comfortable in social situations.   If you still find yourself making social comparisons here are a few things to consider: 1. It’s not necessarily the comparison that should stop – only [...]