Don’t Be Shy

Last week I talked about how you can overcome shyness by challenging your comfort zone.    The first challenge came from the book “The 4 hour work week” by Tim Ferris.  The challenge was to look people in the eye and let them be the ones to look away.   Look them in the eye when talking [...]

In high school I was incredibly shy, the thought of being called on in class and having to answer a question filled me with panic.  With the exception of giving speeches, I did not talk in class.  So how did I go from this, to starting a debate in class?  Well, after high school I [...]

In the overcoming shyness series I discuss how extending your comfort zone is the key to overcoming shyness.   Comfort challenges is a perfect way to achieve this.   I stumbled across this idea in the book I just started reading;  The 4-Hour Workweek.   The book’s blub talks about how to escape 9-5, working less and living more so finding [...]

At the time I never understood why, but when I was in high school I was great at speeches.   In a couple of classes we had to give a speech, sometimes the topics were given other times we were free to choose.  But either way I would do a great job.    Now you have to [...]

Shyness can cause the ‘I don’t know what to say’ problem.  Where you are in a situation where you want to talk with the other person but don’t know what to say.  Either you have a total blank and no clue about what to talk about or you think they will think you are stupid [...]

What do overcoming shyness and increasing the number of push-ups you can do have in common?  Well quite a lot it turns out. 1. You have to be the one to do it. If you want overcome shyness and improve your people skills you have to be the one to do it.    You have to be [...]

When you are dealing with, and working towards overcoming shyness it is important to watch your thoughts.  Think about an up-coming social event, ask yourself – have you already decided if you are going to enjoy yourself.  It’s true that we often decide if we are going to enjoy a  social situation before we experience it.   If [...]

I’m sure you have heard this advice before – “fake it to make it”.  But how do you actually fake it and does it help you overcome shyness and be more social. How to fake it. The idea is that you pretend to be the confident, chatty person you want to be and soon enough [...]

In an attempt to upgrade this blog to wordpress version 2.3 I seem to have lost all my categories.  I’m not sure why or how, fingers crossed everything else seems to be working ok though. While I try and fix this,  you can use the search function or have a look some of these top [...]

Sometimes it can help to remember why you want to overcome shyness.   A gentle reminder of why it is worth persevering even when it’s hard.  I have two motivating factors that are substantially bigger than all the rest. They are: 1. My children. 2. My life purpose. Both my motivating factors are interconnected since I consider raising [...]