Don’t Be Shy

Being shy can be a very frustrating experience and you may find times when you are completely lost at what to do. I have this feeling many more times than I wish to remember but over the years have found a couple of tips which have helped. Remember overcoming shyness is something personal, different things [...]

Developing social skills and overcoming shyness is not always easy. This is neither a bad thing nor something that should deter you but rather it simply shows that you will need to practice and stick with it.  You find this with any new skill you wish to acquire.   If you wanted to play your favorite [...]

Overcoming shyness is a process and does take time.  But as I stand and look back over the years there are a few things I wish I knew when I was 15 that would have made the process a little easier.  This is part two of the advice I would give myself.  You can read [...]

I love this tip for overcoming shyness for two reasons:    1. It gives you conversation topics.     2. It is much easier to talk about things you love. In most work places and schools/collages people gather the morning after to talk about their favorite TV shows.    It is therefore a matter of finding people that like [...]

Overcoming shyness is all about feeling comfortable in an increasing range of situations.  Slowly extending where you feel comfortable is the easiest way to do this.  And to help further there are small comfort challenges you can try.  Learning to say no is number 4.   Because these challenges  aim to extend your comfort zone slowly [...]

To feel comfortable and not shy in a variety of social situations, you need to challenge your current comfort zone.   This is the third comfort challenge you can use to help overcome shyness.  You can find the first one here and second comfort challenge here. Before you read the next comfort challenge make sure you [...]

 Chances are that as we get closer to Christmas, that your work functions are now behind you and you can focus on the parties/lunches/dinners with close family and friends.    In most of these cases I feel safe in assuming that these gatherings are not the type to bring on anxiety and shyness, or at least [...]

Recently I read “Don’t make me think” by Steve Krug and while this is a book on website usability testing it included good reminder that applies well when you are working to overcome shyness.   The idea is that everyone is muddling through – the only difference is that people muddle through on different levels.    A [...]

Shyness can be overcome, but  before you set out to completely conquer your shyness, pause first to ask yourself what are your overall goals. Why goal setting is critical. If you don’t know what your overall goal is, it makes getting there quite a challenge.   There are many many different social situations that exist.  Do [...]

Shyness can often leave you standing to the side wondering what to say or do.  Taking action may seem like a general (and useless) piece of advice but it isn’t as hard as it seems.  And it works!  Like most things as one step it is huge, but broken down into small steps, taking action [...]