Don’t Be Shy

It is never nice to see a large list of negatives, especially when you have experienced most of them.  But I wanted to post a list of shyness symptoms to gain a clear understanding  of just how much shyness can affect you.  
Many of these symptoms are familiar to me, especially the behavioural ones.  I never [...]

Two separate and quite different events happened this week which have given me a very nice and comfortable sense of belonging.
Firstly, what a nice surprise it was to find that my blog had been tagged twice.   I was very surprised as I still consider this blog to be new, and hadn’t really expected it.  [...]

If you are looking for a safe step towards overcoming shyness, I suggest you start a blog. 
I have found blogging has helped with my shyness already.   I started my blog just a few weeks ago, and after a bit of reservation I begain to join some blogging communities and started to make a few comments on others blogs.    In the past [...]

There are  times when telling people you are shy could work in your favour.   When I started my first university course, I felt very uncomfortable and my shyness took over.  I soon realised that I was coming across as being unfriendly.   This of course was the last thing I wanted, so I told two classmates [...]

I feel a bit silly to admit this but I find it quite hard to leave comments on other people’s blogs.
There are two main comment types:
Contribution comments.  where you introduce a new idea, debate, or agree with a point in the blog.  These types of comments are usually ok.  
Conversational comments.   These are more general comments. For example,  you like the [...]

Social Fitness
Desired general state of wellness in which the degree of social participation is determined by personal preference rather than by discomfort and fears of negative evaluation.        
                                                        - www.shyness.com
I was discussing this idea in a previous blog but didn’t realise there was a term for it.   But there you go, Social Fitness is what I am [...]

One a scale of 1 – 10; How shy are you?  1 being painfully, unable to speak to people shy and 10 being not shy at all.   I would put myself as a 3.5 (4 on a good day)  To be honest my goal in this isn’t to be a 10 instead it is more [...]

When I was a child I was very shy.  I didn’t like meeting new people or doing new things, it was all too scary and uncomfortable because i never knew what to say or do.   After leaving school I joined the work force where I had to interact with many new people.  This was very scary at [...]