Rejection is just a part of life, it happens to all of us at some time. But that doesn’t make it easy to deal with. In fact, getting rejected can be devastating and take time to get over. Whether it is the first time or the 100th time you have been rejected there are a few things you can do (and remember) which may help make that rejection a little easier.
1. Give yourself a moment.
It is unfair to expect yourself to just brush off every rejection just like that. Some rejections will take time so always give yourself a moment. In this time you might wallow, think things over or lie on the bed and stare at the ceiling for a while.
2. Consider that it might just be the other person.
Always consider that the reason for the rejection might be nothing to do with you. Maybe the person was having a bad day and when they would usually say yes to going out for coffee, they were simply not in the mood. This is not so much a rejection rather that the other person had their own issues to sort out.
3. Treat yourself.
If you missed out on a job or someone you like didn’t like you back then do something special for yourself. It doesn’t have to be big, maybe a new DVD or a big bubble bath. Making yourself feel a little better in small simple ways does help to lift your mood.
4. Do something.
After you have taken some time to regroup be careful that you don’t dwell on the rejection longer than needed. Get up and do something. Doing something can take your mind off the rejection and give you a boast in confidence as tasks get completed.
5. Can you learn from it?
In some cases there is an opportunity to learn from the rejection and improve. Make sure you take these opportunities. If you missed out on a job because you miss a required skill, then investigate whether you can gain this skill. Knowing why you were rejected can help you avoid it in the future.
6. A no is better than not knowing.
If you tried asking out someone and they said no. After the rejection sting passes congratulate yourself for trying. It is the easier to not ask anyone out, that way you never get rejected – but you never get a yes either. Sometimes you have to get a few no’s to get to the yes. So don’t give up trying just because you got a no. To step out of your comfort zone and ask someone out is a big achievement and should be recognized as so.
Rejection isn’t easy, even when we have experienced it many times before. Take a moment and consider some of the other points mentioned above. But don’t let one rejection put you off.